As someone who has posted things to FB that have raised the concerns of our wonderful bishop, I thought a little explanation/clarification for others who may have found these things concerning might be in order.
I am less-good than many when it comes to being sensitive to the comfort-zones of others. This is intentional. I don’t value comfort-zones, generally. I have been involved in areas of recovery and healing for a long time, and have found that the desire to remain comfortable leads to many, many problems. So I share information that can be challenging, disconcerting and painful, if I find it interesting or valuable. Recently, the Church has been releasing essays on various gospel topics that people find uncomfortable. I haven’t really pushed these, but they’re worth looking over. It’s surprising how many times the reflexive defensiveness about any challenging statement about the Church can leave you on the provably wrong side of the argument. As a small example, those who I’ve heard recently bashing the idea of evolution of species, apparently believing the Church is opposed to evolution, who are not aware that the Church is officially neutral on the question.
These things I like to talk about that are challenging for Mormons who regularly attend meetings (aka TBM or True, Believing Mormons,) can be quite comforting for Mormons who don’t feel comfortable regularly attending meetings when they find there’s someone they can talk to about their concerns. I feel more need to try to help those who aren’t comfortable showing up every week than those who are — those who are comfortable with the way things are have the way things are, and, as far as I can tell, don’t need my help to keep coming back. I see it as reaching out to the lost sheep. The ninety and nine are okay. A little challenge here and there isn’t really going to hurt them/you. And, if it does drive them/you to some inquiry into matters that they/you thought were settled, then that’s just the “studying it out in your mind” that D&C 9 directs us to do. Truth doesn’t become more or less true if it is believed or not. Exploring questions is part of the path to greater knowledge and understanding.
So, if you see me post something you find challenging or disturbing, feel free to make a comment about it and engage in a conversation with me about it. Things will go more smoothly if you leave your assumptions at the door, and are open to new information — a very difficult thing for Mormons who tend to pride themselves on knowing more about everything than anybody else does. Artifacts of Mormon Culture, including folk-doctrine and out-dated understandings of policy and practice are things I have little respect for, and when I see the harm they do in our wards and families, I can be quite critical of them. We are here to follow God through his living servants, not some interpretation of what they’ve said that makes us feel better than someone else. I don’t believe that anyone is “better than” anybody else, and I don’t believe being Mormon makes me better than anybody else, particularly. Nor you. It doesn’t mean I don’t love you.