This is people being real. Reality sucks. It’s not our fault that reality sucks — that’s the way it was made. It seems that there’s something important about us experiencing life in a reality that sucks. I am quite tired of people trying to silence me because what I have to say strikes them as “negative.” I’m not saying them to be negative. I’m saying them to be real. Because I’ve been in very bad places in my life, being alone and hurt and …. If you’ve been there, you know what I”m talking about. If you don’t, then shut up and listen and try to understand it. People spend much of their lives there — not everyone, but far too many. They don’t need you Pollyannaing them and telling them to smile and it’ll all get better, because that’s not true. They don’t need you to fix them. Which is good, because you don’t know how to fix them, no matter how much you think you do.
I’ve been there. The things that made life better was when I started listening to understand and to empathize, rather than to argue and fix and correct. And got real. Ugly things don’t get less ugly by ignoring their ugliness. But they can get better when they are shown in all their ugly reality. Because then people can face them and address them and make them different.
So suck it up, buttercup. This is a long ride, and it’s bumpy. It’s not always fun. But you do’t have to go down it alone. Because those of us you think are being “negative” are right there with you the whole time. And we might just love you more than you can know.